About Megan

Bartlett, Illinois Marriage and Couples Therapist Colleen Koncilja LCSW CADC

Hi, I’m Megan.

I provide counseling for adolescents and therapy for emerging adults and adults who are in their 20’s and early 30’s.

I can help you reduce your anxiety and/or depression and find solutions to things in your life that cause you high stress while helping you build your self-esteem and confidence, so you can be your best self.

 

Growing up, maturing, and then adulting is hard, especially when you are trying to figure out who you are. This is especially true if you are also navigating through uncharted territory, such as a new school, a new job, new relationships, etc.

It’s easy to observe others and think they “have it all together” – “how are they handling everything and doing life so well; I can’t figure it all out.”

Everyone has good days and bad days, but when you are noticing that the days when you are feeling stuck, down on yourself, frustrated, alone, and misunderstood, occur more often than not, seeking out support and making some positive changes can make a world of a difference.

This is exactly why I do what I do as a therapist. I’m here to tell you that it is okay to have bad days and to feel uncertain and unable to do things sometimes. If you are struggling with feeling depressed, anxious, scared, or full of self-doubt, you can and will get through it.

Together, we can work together to help you figure it all out so you can get to a different place. So you can feel confident and more sure of yourself, your capabilities, and the direction you’re headed. I am here to help talk through your experiences and enhance some skills you already do have while also teaching you some new ones that can help.

 

Seeing the teens and adults I work with feel empowered and confident to handle what life throws at them is what excites me as a therapist. It may seem scary, but we will work together to make it worth it.

My Approach to Therapy:

First and foremost, we will need to get to know each other so we can build a relationship that is supportive for you. I will get to know you while you tell me all that has been happening for you, how you’ve tried to make some things you are struggling with better, and I will learn more about how you like and need people to treat you so you can be at ease and feel comfortable. Taking the time to build rapport, connection, and trust ensures that we will work together to get you to where you want to be.

We will explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, as well as how they all connect with each other. We will work together to understand the “why’s” in your life and use various techniques, skills, and approaches to reach your goals.

I utilize evidence-based therapies that will support the changes you want to make. Together, we will begin to be curious about what you feel, think, and believe, while we expand your observations and insights about yourself and others around you. This will help us gain insight, identify obstacles, and find ways to either plow through, move around, or conquer those obstacles to help you get what you need and want.

I will provide feedback, suggestions, and encouragement whenever you are open to them. You will never need to fear that I will judge, criticize, or correct how or what you think or feel. I want to help you know and believe that not only what you feel and who you are is okay, but that you are worthy, enough, unique, and amazing.

If you are wondering about me, I have a energetic presence, but a calm personality, which I use to make your experience together more comforting and inviting. As an athlete, I approach therapy like we are on the same team, so we travel together on the journey you are taking.

Whether you have tried therapy in the past or this is your first experience, I will create a comfortable, trusting, and safe environment for you to begin making positive changes in your life.

How I Can Help You–The Parents:

Being a parent is the hardest and scariest, but most rewarding job you will ever have. You love your child like nothing else, and you do everything in your power to ensure they are safe, happy, and healthy.

But sometimes, you notice changes in your child, and you’re not sure exactly what to do. So, you begin to read books on parenting, talk to other parents on social media or in your friend groups, or Google different keywords for hours trying to figure out what is wrong and what is the best way to help. I’m here to help you through all the uncertainty and to support not only your child, but you as well.

As a parent, you have been through the same stages of life as your child, so you understand some of the struggles, problems, and concerns they are experiencing. Even though you’ve been there, sometimes children and teens can benefit from talking to another adult who can hear them a little differently, who they may be open to listening to a little more.

When I work with children and teens, I have the opportunity to be another adult who can encourage, listen, and support while intervening at critical moments so they feel less alone and more understood. I welcome the opportunity to have an impactful role in your child’s development of greater confidence, and self-esteem. If you believe they are struggling and need extra support, guidance, and therapeutic intervention, I’d be glad to help.

While your child and I will form a working team, we will also need you to join our team. How much and how often we all connect and work together will depend on their age, maturity level, the issues they are working on, etc.

When I provide counseling for children and therapy for pre-teens, you will be more often included in therapy sessions. At times, I will educate and provide approaches and suggestions for what you can do at home to support and help your child with their particular struggles. While caring for your teen, you will notice that you may not have much involvement within your actual teen’s regular therapy sessions as they are transitioning in becoming more independent. However, you can be rest assured that I will always involve you if your child is struggling with something that affects their overall safety or when the family needs to do specific things to best support them.

Collaborating with the other professionals who are also caring for your child / teen is extremely helpful. If your child or teen is working with a school social worker, school counselor, or psychiatrist I will request that you consent for us to consult with each other. We will then develop a plan to best care for and intervene with your child. If your child / teen has an IEP or 504 plan, I will request that you provide me with a copy of it so I can fully understand and support your child’s academic success.

My overall goal for your child, no matter their age, is to provide a comfortable, safe, positive, and supportive environment for them to express how they feel and what they are struggling with. I strive to understand who they are as a person and teach them the skills they need in order to feel more confident about themselves and handle the obstacles they encounter. Every child is unique and has their own strengths; I can help your child find, embrace, and strengthen theirs.

Counseling Adolescents, Teens, and Emerging Adults:

It’s very easy to look around at your friends and think they have it “all together” and that they never feel the way you feel. It’s even harder to look at pages on social media and see the “perfect life” that others your age have. Even if you have a really close friend with whom you discuss your problems, you may still be alone in your feelings and experiences. I’m here to help you understand that you are NOT alone and that whatever you’re feeling is normal.

Therapy is about YOU. My goal is to learn about you and your experiences, and then use that information to help guide me to best help you. I create a comfortable, safe, and supportive environment during our times together. I want you to believe you can talk to me about your thoughts feelings, beliefs, and issues of concern without judgement. Your thoughts, opinions, and feelings are IMPORTANT and valuable, and I want to hear about them.

Whether you are struggling with anxiety, depression, stress, or relationships, therapy takes time, and it can be work, but we will take it as slow or fast as you want. Together, we will explore your thoughts, situations, and identify different things that may be helpful at your pace and within your comfort level. I will encourage you to try to be open to making some adjustments and to try new things that may seem silly or seem like they won’t work at first, but, sometimes, it is surprising how little changes can make a huge impact. I often say, “You don’t know until you try.” If we don’t try new things, we will never know if they could have helped us in someway.

Wow! I give you a lot of credit if you’ve made in this far in reading this and, kudos to you for being here considering therapy.

I understand it’s scary to think about talking to someone about the stuff that’s inside your head and about how you really think about yourself and the people around you, but everyone can use some extra help and support at certain times in their life. Maybe right now is one of those times for you.

Making the decision and step to start counseling and going to therapy says more positive things about you and how you really feel about yourself than you may realize. Let’s work together to help you figure some things out so you can be your best you.

My Professional Journey as a Therapist:

Believe it or not, when I was 16, I knew what I wanted to be and set the steps in motion to become a therapist. Back then, I still had a lot of growing and maturing left to do, but I knew I thrived on helping people, I was a good listener, people used to seek out my support, and somehow, I knew inside it was what I wanted to and was meant to do.

I have had the pleasure of being a School Social Worker for the past 5 years, working with all grade levels from from kindergarteners to seniors in high school. I have experience working with children and adolescents who are a part of either or both general education and special education settings. My school counseling experience includes providing both individual and group counseling as well as coaching and collaborative supportive services.

In my work at Health and Healing Therapy, I have the opportunity to work with kids, teens, and adults over a longer period of time within longer sessions which affords us to connect more and encourages my clients to open up more and dig a little deeper identifying what they want to be different in their life, and, together, we develop a plan on how to make that happen.

Some of the issues that many of my child and teen clients and/or students face are difficulty managing depression and/or anxiety, self-esteem, dealing with school avoidance, school refusal, ADHD (attention deficit-hyperactivity-disorder), academic success, relationship issues, social adjustments and difficulties, and grief and loss.

Whereas, most of the emerging adults and adults I work with struggle with depression, anxiety, self confidence, imposter syndrome, self-esteem, career transitions, social and relationship struggles, and finding meaning in their work and life.

I can truly say that I love what I do and have a passion for helping others. With my passion, I am constantly looking to expand my knowledge and expertise through additional post-graduate clinical training and education. I bring a positive, inviting attitude and excitement to my sessions with my clients to create an environment that allows clients to grow.

Therapist Colleen Koncilja LCSW CADC of Health and Healing Therapy

Professional Bio

COUNSELING AND THERAPY APPROACHES

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Trauma-Informed Practices
  • Mindfulness
  • Strength-Based Therapy
  • Solution-Focused Therapy
  • Conflict-Resolution Therapy
  • Parent Education & Support
  • Individual and Group Counseling
  • Client-Centered Therapy

EDUCATION AND CERTIFICATIONS

  • B.A. Sociology and Social Work, Benedictine University, Lisle, IL

  • Master of Social Work (MSW) Degree, Chicago State University, Chicago, IL

  • Licensed Social Worker, Illinois License #150.101812

  • Licensed School Social Worker K-12, Illinois License #2316414

  • Certified in Youth Mental Health First Aid

In Closing

You are taking a huge step in deciding to start therapy. As you take the steps to strengthen your skills and improve yourself, I will do whatever I can to help and support you. Let’s create a team together that will find ways to help you feel better and to achieve your goals. If you are interested in working with me, please reach out to schedule an appointment. I look forward to working with you.

Ready to create a life full of health, hope, and happiness?