Hi, I’m Roxanne
If you are experiencing a time in your life where you are feeling uncertain, stressed, stuck, or more anxious or depressed than usual, I can help. We can work together to help you feel more calm, confident, hopeful, and connected to yourself again.
I help adults of all ages:
- Develop a more positive relationship with themselves as they combat the negative, false, and unhelpful beliefs and feelings about themselves. Together, we work toward fostering new, positive beliefs about their amazing strengths, talents, and characteristics.
- Increase their ability to form helpful and heathy relationships so they feel heard, supported, encouraged, and understood. This helps them gain a sense of acceptance, connection, and belonging.
- Enhance and instill confidence in themselves and their ability to be an excellent parent,
partner, professional, etc., so they can feel competent and capable in their daily lives.
- Establish an understanding of how their past experiences have an impact on their present life. We work to foster and deepen the connection between their beliefs and emotional responses when feelings like self doubt, fear, anxiety, sadness, anger, etc., and triggers from the past cause distress.
- Learn and practice new skills to help themselves cope with anxiety, depression, and high stress. We implement strategies that uniquely and specifically work for them so they can feel more calm, less stressed, and more hopeful.
Depression: Sometimes individuals with depression are going through a difficult time and aren’t dealing with long-term depression, but others may experience more life-altering or life-long depression. We would work together to find out what the best treatment is for you. Some people I work with also see a psychiatric professional or their primary care physician for depression medication(s). Other clients choose to not use medication, and instead we implement other depression strategies like exercise, meditation, light therapy, etc.
Anxiety and Worry: If you worry and experience anxiety about all the things that can keep you up at night and the things you wish you could control, counseling can help. I teach clients the necessary skills to reduce their anxiety and panic. We focus on forming new connections in their brain so they know they are safe, present, and not in danger, which can bring great relief. Reducing anxiety, stress, and worry while enhancing sleep cycles can improve one’s overall wellbeing.
Women’s Issues: Some of the issues I’ve helped other women with include…balancing all the roles and responsibilities they manage, working mom concerns, midlife transitions, self care and doing things for themselves, and relationship satisfaction.
Negative Beliefs: Sometimes people feel like they aren’t good enough, they are defective, not worthy of good things, that something is really wrong with them, or that they aren’t like other people because they are ___________ .
Feelings of Shame and Guilt: Sometimes people may felt guilty about something they did that they wish they didn’t or something they didn’t do that they wish they could go back and change. And/or, they feel deep shame about themselves, often believing there is something innately wrong with them. Sometimes individuals feel broken and that they don’t deserve second chances, understanding from others, or for good things to happen to them.
Relationship Difficulties: Whether it be with a partner, sibling, child, friend, or co-worker, these relationships can impact how stressed a person feels if one or several of these relationships are causing them problems and issues.
Relapse Prevention and Long-Term Recovery Issues: I help individuals who have been through substance use disorder treatment or are involved in a recovery program (12-step program, SMART Recovery, etc.) and have maintained at least 6 months of continued abstinence from all mind altering substances. Together, we work on rebuilding relationships, trust, goals, and positive feelings about yourself, etc.
Isolation and Loneliness: It’s incredibly painful to feel isolated and alone. If you often feel misunderstood, unsupported, different than other people, and alone, therapy can help. If it is relationships and connections that you desire, you can learn different strategies that will help you connect with others so you can have friendships that are helpful and supportive. Whereas, if you want a greater connection within the relationships you already have, we can explore what is holding you back and ways to help you build the intimacy and sense of belonging you desire.
I also help those who are facing and trying to cope with:
- Toxic Stress that wipes you out in life and turns you into a person you don’t want to be
- Maternal Mental Health related to pregnancy, after birth, and parenting issues
- Grief, Loss, and Mourning
- Caretaker Challenges that arise for spouses, partners, parents, and adult children
We all need at least one person in our lives who we can share our pain with. One person who will be there to support us without judgment who readily provides understanding and encouragement. If you’re someone who is feeling alone, emotionally exhausted, and/or is lacking this kind of support, which is causing you to feel misunderstood, stressed, or overwhelmed, please consider seeking the care and supportive therapy I provide.
MY APPROACH TO THERAPY
Just like in any relationship, therapy starts off by getting to know each other. Naturally, I will spend more time getting to know you, since supporting you will be my main concern. I will ask you different questions about your past, present, and future. I want to know about who and what is important to you.
By gaining a history from you and understanding some of your life experiences, it will help me understand what may be most helpful for you. You will always get to choose your pace and how much you share with me. I will respect your comfort and boundaries, and we won’t go too fast, as it’s important that you choose what to share and when you share the details of your life.
Throughout our relationship and work together, my hope is that I would gain your trust and become a safe person for you to talk to. When we can trust someone and rely on them to give us support, it allows us to be more open and honest, which can help us grow. When we share things about ourselves, it opens the window for us to feel more supported and cared for, which is something we all need and one I hope you can experience.
When facing a difficult period in your life, you face two major questions: “Why is this happening?” and “What can I do about it?” Together, we will work through both of them.
The “what” question is often what brings us to therapy in the first place. Together, we will find ways to improve your current situation by developing coping skills and lifestyle changes that work for your own unique personality and experience. We explore mindfulness, relaxation techniques, journaling, setting boundaries, improving your self esteem, and sometimes even making major changes in our lives. Not all coping skills and lifestyle changes work for everyone. Together, we will figure out what works for you.
Grappling with the “why” question often means looking at our pasts. We may have grown up in traumatic environments; we may be part of toxic relationships; we may have internalized negative messages about ourselves; or we may have genetic vulnerability to depression or anxiety. We all have a unique path that led us to the present moment. I believe that to achieve long-term healing, we need to understand that path.
Often, I encourage clients to utilize various forms of writing, journaling, and other narrative exercises. Of course, it is always your choice as to whether or not you would want to try it. Yet, I have found it to be incredibly beneficial; as sometimes we can have difficulty putting verbal words to our experience. Writing, drawing and even doodling can help us express our thoughts, feelings, and the beliefs we hold about ourselves, others, and our life experiences. Through expressing these, we can often release feelings and unhelpful beliefs while helping ourselves gain a new and healing perspective.
WHAT I HOPE TO PROVIDE THROUGH COUNSELING AND THERAPY
Perhaps you’ve been in therapy before and have decided to return the therapy to continue your work on the same issue or to work on something new. Or, maybe this is the first time you’ve considered counseling or perhaps the idea of therapy has been nagging at your for quite some time, but now you’re finally ready to take the steps to begin. Whatever the case, rest assured you will be in good hands with Health and Healing Therapy.
If you decide to work with me, I will provide you with a counseling experience that is unique and individualized to meet your specific strengths, needs, and overall goals. I utilize evidenced-based therapies and up to date research on the best counseling and therapy techniques that have been proven and shown to help people meet their goals and facilitate the things they want to change.
I believe when you can give yourself the time and space to allow yourself to be open about and work through your uncertainties, pain, difficulties, and confusion with a therapist who you can trust and one who will help, you have deep courage. Is now a time that you can give yourself that time and space? I encourage you to consider if you are ready to care for yourself in a new way. We all have times in our lives when we need to reach out for help from another person. Perhaps this one of those times for you.
From the moment you walk into my office or the first time we connect online, you will enter a judgement-free space and be greeted by a attentive, supportive, and caring person.
Together, we will discover your strengths, talents, and abilities, which will guide our approach to change. Sometimes these changes will not be easy to make. But, I promise to prioritize your well-being in everything we do as a team.
Part of the way I try to do this is by being open to any feelings or concerns you may develop about our work together or about our relationship. The foundation of any good relationship is healthy communication, and I will check in frequently to see how you are feeling about how you think we are doing.
Along with creating a positive and trusting relationship, I seek to help you understand yourself better. Often, our self-image has been shaped by others who may have intentionally or unintentionally done something to us, and that experience may have caused us to feel bad about ourselves. Sometimes people have experienced things that were traumatic and life-altering and those beliefs have impacted them deeply.
We can explore the thoughts and feelings you have about yourself and if they are helpful or hurtful to you and the goals you are working toward. You can determine if and what you still want to hold on to.
We will then use your unique strengths to address the issues in your life that are causing you pain and the things that are happening now or have happened in the past that are causing you difficulty in getting to the place in your life you desire and experiencing what you want. Sometimes this can be a short journey and other times it can take some time.
Therapeutic work requires strength, and just showing up to therapy demonstrates the kind of courage you will need to make positive — although at times, difficult — changes in your life.
In addition to identifying your unique gifts, we will work together to understand your life story. We often think that our past regrets, current problems, and anxiety about the future are separate problems. By zooming out and looking at our lives in broader focus, we can find our lives’ themes and the patterns of thought and behavior that have often followed us throughout our lives. Once we identify these, we can more easily address them. We will work together to understand your past, address your current difficulties, and develop the foundation for a hopeful future.
MY PROFESSIONAL JOURNEY
My clinical journey started later in life. Before becoming a therapist, I did various things professionally; I was an environmental lobbyist, a historian, an author, an editor, a teacher, and a writing coach. Each of these steps and phases in my life’s journey have impacted how I care for and help others. I love to write, teach, research, advocate, and support others, and I bring facets of all of these into the therapeutic process.
Even before I went back to school for my second master’s degree, this time in social work with a an emphasis on counseling, I partnered with another mental health professional and began a community education group that focused on expanding people’s understanding of mental illness with an emphasis on destigmatization. By connecting with people through that group and others who worked in the field of counseling and therapy, it became clear to me that I wanted to help others in the therapy process, so I began my graduate training.
Previously, I have worked at both a local hospital that provided psychiatric care and another private practice. At the hospital, I worked with clients who suffered from severe mental health issues and were involved in more long-term care. I also worked with seniors in a gerontology program which focused on difficulties related to health challenges, isolation, caregiving responsibilities, and, at times, coping with early dementia. Whereas at the private practice, I had the opportunity to work with children, teens, adults, and couples. Most of the people I worked with were dealing with anxiety, depression, life transitions, family stressors, roles and responsibility difficulties, and relationship issues. Throughout my time as a therapist, I have provided individual therapy, couples counseling, group education, and group therapy.
I value research and educating myself as I believe it helps me be the best therapist I can be. I continually learn from other therapy and research experts through my clinical training as well as my self-education so I can stay on top of the most effective and best ways to help those I work with. Every person I have had the opportunity to work with requires me to utilize different skills and knowledge so I can best help them. That is how I individualize care so they can feel the most supported and be the most successful at meeting their goals.
COUNSELING AND THERAPY APPROACHES
- Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
- Narrative Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing (MI)
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Strength-Based Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Trauma-Informed Practices
EDUCATION AND CERTIFICATIONS
- B.A. Anthropology, Harvard University
- M.A. American History, Yale University
- Ph.D. American History, Yale University
- M.S.W. Master of Social Work, Aurora University
- Licensed Social Worker, Illinois License 150.104741
Reaching out for help takes courage and strength; it is a profound way to care for yourself. Being willing to learn about yourself while identifying how and what you need to change isn’t always easy.
I welcome the opportunity to see you through these difficult times and guide your toward your goals so you can feel better. You don’t have to do this alone. If you believe I may be someone who you can connect with and who could help you create the life you want, reach out and contact me.